to those who are outside the greek system, sorority life may always be mysterious and suspect. unless your old friends are willing to open their minds and let some new ideas in ~ they may never understand. you can try to explain, but it could be like changing someone’s political views or religious convictions. they have a firm bias that they believe is true, and unless they join a chapter themselves, it may be difficult to change their minds… but it doesn’t hurt to try!
non-greeks can be judgmental and critical without knowing ANY facts at all. you can arm yourself with some statistics like the millions of dollars and thousands of volunteer hours that greeks give to worthy charities each and every year. serving the less fortunate and raising funds is not an elite behavior in the slightest. you can point out the bonding, friendship and leadership opportunities offered by sorority chapters. also, greeks get consistently better grades and have higher GPAs on campus. the facts and figures don’t lie. but sadly, sometimes judgmental people believe what they want to believe in the face of opposing facts.
if after sharing your personal story and some greek facts, they still choose to rant, you will need to agree to disagree and move on to other topics. if they are true friends, they will accept your life choices, just as they would for any “alternative” lifestyle! xoxo ;)